Our lives and everyday conversations have changed radically as a result of the COVID-19 pandemic. We discuss hand washing, social distancing, quarantines, supply chains, essential personnel, protocol, paper products. And we want this to end. April had been packed with pleasure: events, parties, shows, trips, and family gatherings, under the canopy of newly leafed trees surrounded by exuberant spring flowers. But that was then and this is now. In this critical month, when one-quarter of the world’s citizens is practicing some form of “Stay-at-Home” order, I’m sharing some thoughts on how I am adapting and staying grounded during this “New Normal:”
INTELLECTUAL – What am I thinking about? Thoughts are often reflections of what you’ve read or who you’ve spoken to. Even in the best of times, I can find my mind churning out unhealthy, useless chatter – sound familiar? Limiting the intake of negative news and unhealthy opinions is a good strategy. Paying attention to reports from the WHO, the CDC, the WSJ, the NYT and a few other trusted outlets has been helpful. Seeking out voices of support, comfort and optimism is essential. Feeling overwhelming gratitude for our scientists and healthcare workers is humbling.
EMOTIONAL – What am I feeling? I’ve gone through several phases of semi-denial, anger and fear interlaced with a thin veneer of anxiety. I found this article written by Scott Berinato extremely useful in providing a framework for making sense of this time through the lens of grief. Perhaps naming it helps manage it, while remembering that everyone has their own timetable to move through these phases. Arriving at the endpoint of “meaning” gives me hope. Processing could take a lifetime and that’s OK.
PHYSICAL – How am I moving my body to enhance my well-being? I continue to bike and walk and spend as much time outdoors as possible, with the occasional game of tennis with my husband. Because I am an avid gardener, there are so many green things vying for my attention. As the Executive Director of Raleigh City Farm, I am digging in the dirt more than ever and taking enormous pleasure in tending the soil and watching things grow. The determination and resilience of the natural world is a miracle.
SOCIAL – How am I connecting? I feel privileged that my ecosystem of connections is varied and vast. The importance of engaging more deeply with my husband and sons (and two cats) is paramount. Taking time to connect and share is essential. Keeping up with my sister, friends, neighbors, partners and extended networks through phone calls, emails, notes and social platforms with stepped up Zoom gatherings has been fulfilling. Making masks, doling out flowers, sharing resources: all of these activities keep me grounded.
SPIRITUAL – How am I growing and deriving meaning? A tougher challenge for sure. Several creative and courageous thought leaders jump to the top of my “Watch List”on Instagram including Elizabeth Gilbert and Brene Brown. Carving out time to listen to their wisdom provides solace and stability. Following the journey of my friends at blue lotus has been gratifying. Rereading the poetry of Mary Oliver is always inspirational. Spending more time in the mountains of Boone to recharge and restore is a precious gift.
Wishing everyone good health and well-being during the month of April. See you on the other side!